As someone who–for nearly a decade–was an expert in unhappiness, I’m learning what makes living with flair so important. At our worst, we become deeply cynical and disillusioned with our own lives. Everything’s wrong. Nothing’s working. We want to abandon ship and find new lives somewhere else. We become desperate for change, desperate to feel alive, desperate for love.
We need to catch each other in our descent and turn our faces back to the light.
We need to find the flair right here in the muck. We need to rise above it. Our happiness is at stake.
It’s just too easy to find out what’s wrong. We do it naturally. My natural inclination is to figure out what’s not working, what’s out of place, what’s off kilter. The brain seeks proportion and harmony, so we easily identify variation and error.
But we get stuck there in despair. We can’t move forward. Or else we take drastic measures to put things right. We act out of fear and confusion.
Maybe a better technique means I find out what’s right.
What might happen if I focus on those small nuggets of good in whatever wrongness or sorrow I’m experiencing? Most days, the temptation to criticize and complain takes over the whole landscape of my soul like clouds moving over the sky. My heart aches and I sink down into the mire. God is neither good nor trustworthy in this particular landscape. I let that lie fester and bleed out.
But not today. I commit to finding what’s right in any wrongness or sorrow or anything I’m missing or hating or dreading. I turn that thing to face the light and find out what’s so right. That one right thing might be the bright hot air balloon that keeps me alight so I can find perspective, hope, and joy in the midst of the dark cloud.
I’m still in my life with all its drama. But instead of sinking down, I’m rising above it in a glorious ascension.
(Landscape photo courtesy of Ian Britton at freefoto.com and Hot Air Balloon by Beverly and Pack flickr)
For me this is true in relationships, unfortunately. I tend to expend the most mental and emotional energy trying to figure out how to fix relationships that aren't quite what I'd like them to be. I should just enjoy the many wonderful relationships I have rather than obsessing about the one or two that hold the drama.
Keep the positive attitude and you will win the war. happiness is the choice and it is there for everyone.
A message that I needed to hear today – and remind myself every day. Thank you for sharing!