A local photographer arrives for a photo shoot in my home. I need a professional head shot for my writing, and I have the worst time looking natural and being myself. I never look nice in pictures! But I have a secret weapon today: I invite a friend over who I know tells the truth and helps me be myself.
We’re knee deep in snow, and the photographer asks my friend to assist her by holding the “reflector.” It’s freezing outside, and I’m standing by my favorite winterberry bush. My friend positions herself beside me and holds up the circular shade. She accomplishes two tasks: she reflects the light toward me (so light bounces off her shade towards me), and she diffuses the harsh sunlight that’s overpowering the shot.
It looks something like this (only imagine the snow, the wind, the freezing cold, us shivering, and plain me since I look nothing like this model):
I’m smiling at my friend, suddenly feeling just like myself.
I want to be a friend like this. I want to reflect the light towards her, and I want to diffuse whatever attempts to overpower her.
I can’t wait to show you the pictures!
Living with flair means I’m a reflector and a diffuser.
(photo by Mila Zinkova, Wikimedia Commons)
Journal: How can I reflect the light and diffuse what’s harsh in my friend’s life today?